i dont wanna give you the wrong impression

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We say to girls: 'You can have ambition, but not too much… We raise girls to see each other as competitors…But for the attention of men” As Beyonce’s song ‘Flawless’ says: “ We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. You’re telling a girl from a young age that her appearance choices are giving boys the wrong impression so SHE should change for him but you’re telling boys they look ridiculous and to sort themselves out for THEM. Now to some, that language might not sound too different.

He was told from authority figures that he looked ‘ridiculous’ and to ‘sort himself out’ but never that girls were getting distracted. But I don’t ever remember hearing at school that a boy’s trousers were too low because HE was giving girls the wrong impression. Ironically, the trend of men wearing their trousers ridiculously low actually came from prison as it was a clear sign to the other inmates that ‘they were sexually available’. That whatever happens to me is justified because I brought it upon myself by dressing this way.

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And beauty attracts beauty.īut what is this ‘wrong impression’? Why did I never think I had the voice to ask that question? Is this ‘wrong impression’ that if I dress showing more of my skin or adding accessorizes such as a flower in my hair that I am giving young boys the impression that I am available for their choosing? That having my hair down rather than tied back would distract boys so much they won’t be able to concentrate so I should change for them. The length that I was shown on women in rom-coms and magazines, the length that I was taught would be the length to make you look beautiful. Now my skirt was never up to my underwear line (granted that would be too short), or my school shirt so low you could see my double A M&S bra, none of these decisions were a health risk for myself or the school, the skirt was just a little bit shorter.

Or that I would be too ‘distracting’ for them in a school environment.

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That if I wanted to roll my skirt up a bit, put a bit of cheap gloopy lip-gloss on that was free from Mizz magazine, or wear a flower clip in my hair, I would get told by my Head Teacher or a parent to change my appearance because I was giving ‘boys the wrong impression’. That’s the expression I heard countless times growing up. If I wanted to experiment with my appearance, I was told that I ‘shouldn’t give boys the wrong impression’. It’s a lesson that women learn, not in our 20’s or 30’s but from a young age at school. However, there seems to be far less pressure, especially from a young age, for men to meet this goal.

#I DONT WANNA GIVE YOU THE WRONG IMPRESSION HOW TO#

From watching unrealistic Disney princesses get their prince with just one kiss, reading endless glossy magazines on how to keep in shape or quick diets, buying ‘figure hugging’ clothes, or simply listening to countless love songs, we believe that men want to be with beautiful women. Since a young age, we’re conditioned into believing beauty attracts beauty.

I dont wanna give you the wrong impression